Love is Rooted in One's Will

When I was younger, I believed wholeheartedly that love is rooted in one's emotions. If your heart flutters when you see someone you like, then it must be love. Or if you sleep with someone and experienced sexual highs, then it must be love. But I'm afraid they're nothing more than just lust in action. And of course, there's no such thing as love at first sight. Lust definitely, but not love. When people fall in love based on their emotions alone, they basically choose to react to their instincts. And when this happens, they come close to acting like an animal. An animal, as we all know, reacts only to instincts, such as to preserve, protect, feed, propagate itself etc.

Love, on the other hand, is rooted in one's will, i.e., you choose to love after finding out more about the person. It's usually accompanied by emotions but love is very much a conscious decision. And once you've decided to love someone, you then cement it by a commitment to that aforesaid person. What this means is that when someone says they've fallen out of love with you, what they're really saying is they've decided not to love you anymore. Or they never loved you in the first place because they mistook lust for love. Either way, they'll then moved onto the next person, and this pattern will be repeated throughout their lives. For those in the latter category, hopefully they'll learn what is love and stop living their lives in a vicious cycle of moving from one person to another based on their emotions. If not, they're destined to continue slaying one victim after another at the altar of love (or so they think).

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